Growing up is hard to do;local therapist hopes to ease transition
Teenage angst, teenage rebellion -- just a few of the phrases used when describing those turbulent teen years.
New business Adulteen Counseling is hoping to offer guidance in transitioning from childhood to adulthood.
Located in suite 103 of the River Center building, 215 2nd Street, Adulteen Counseling, owned by Hudson resident Brian Crim, specializes in parent/child relationships, adolescence, couples' conflicts and emotional trauma -- he sees individuals, but tends to see more couples and families.
Though not the initial pathway that Crim was heading down, the father of four found his calling while working with youth groups.
"I have been working my whole career with adolescents," said Crim.
After earning his bachelor's in biblical and theological studies from Bethel University in Minnesota, Crim started working with youth groups within the church setting and coaching the Hudson Middle School football team.
It was while working with a wide variety of adolescents that Crim realized his strong desire to work with youth.
"Working with youth groups sent me down this path," he said.
With his new-found passion, Crim headed to UW-Stout and got his MA in Marriage and Family counseling, though he is "...trained in the whole spectrum of mental health."
With his master's, Crim has been given the opportunity to expand his passion for helping youth, and it has allowed him an opportunity to work with families.
Coming of age
Crim wants to help adolescents get over the hump to adulthood: "My hope is to help communities understand adolescents."
Crim feels that there's a lot of challenges to growing up in our culture.
When asked what the main issues facing teens today are, Crim cited the sense of isolation.
"They are walking through a stage of life where they have been disconnected from adult life," he said.
With the disengagement between adults and teens, "...teenagers are raising teenagers," -- they are looking to their peers for guidance.
According to Crim, teens are struggling with three things: "'Who am I?,' 'What do I control?' and 'Where do I fit in?'"
Crim sees this as a teeter-totter process, where adolescents go between needing to make adult decisions and needing to have some guidance.
"Teenagers are getting bored -- they want to have an impact and are ready to start doing things now," said Crim.
"With all of these opportunities being given to teenagers, they are never forced to make a decision," said Crim. "They are not prepared to become adults."
In other cultures the future is laid out, "Here, there is nothing but opportunity and they are not making decisions," said Crim
More than therapy
Therapy is only a part of what Crim is hoping to accomplish.
"I would like to work with families, and in the future have support groups," he said.
Crim would like to see those support groups be more parent driven and he would be there to facilitate -- offer support using the most current research to bridge the gap, and encourage and support.
Another aspect that Crim would like to develop in his business is seminar speaking -- going into schools and churches and helping parents, teachers and youth directors understand why adolescents are having such a hard time.
"I would like to work with communities to the increase the scope of impact," he said.
"I would also like to hold marriage seminars," said Crim. He believes that a strong marriage helps kids. "It's hard to help a teenager out without helping the family system."
According to Crim's website, he hopes "...to help families learn how to understand one another, build deeper trust, constructively work through conflict, and become the loving and supportive family they long to be."
Crim sees River Falls as an ideal place to start his new business.
Being a college town, River Falls is a hotbed of teen-to-adult transitions. Crim also saw a need that was not being served in the area.
One thing that seems to make Adulteen Counseling unique is that it doesn't take insurance.
According to Crim, not taking insurance allows him to have a lower sliding scale for those who would normally struggle to pay for services.
"My sliding fee scale is not dictated by the insurance industry, allowing it to be more flexible and to make therapy available to those without insurance or who might otherwise find it financially out of reach, especially if you are seeking purely relational therapy," Crim said.
A second benefit is that Crim is not required to give a patient a diagnosis, "...which then goes on your medical record and may affect your future insurance rates," he said.
Without insurance covering the bills, patients have more control over what issues are addressed in therapy and how they are resolved.
Therapy hours are typically held on Mondays and Tuesdays, with the rest of the week being devoted to seminar speaking.
For more information on Adulteen Counseling, contact Crim at 715-410-5822 or visit online at www.adultteencounseling.com.